I have a suspicion that many times our (and by that I mean my) perceptions of other people are really more of mirrors than windows. We tend to see people not as they are but as we are. What I mean by that is this: we view people through the lens of our own prejudices, pains, suspicions, and assumptions.
Rather than seeing other people through a window for who they actually are, we assume things about them based upon the smallest observations. Thus, we try to see people through mirrors, making decisions about them with little or no sustained evidence, and those assumptions reveal more about us than they do about the character of the other person.
It seems to me that the world would be a better place if we were to identify the mirrors through which we’re trying to view the relationships in our lives, and approach conversations and friendships with a sense of wonder and discovery, trusting their positive intentions unless they give us valid reason not to.
What assumptions have you made about other people that are really more of projections of yourself?
What decisions have you made about other people based upon limited evidence?
What wounds / past experiences in your life do you tend to project onto other people you hardly know?
Some of us need to break the mirrors. Some of us just need some Windex.